「体裁（ていさい）」
うちの娘たち二人は中学生。3女も小学校の高学年。この年齢になると、どうしても他人が気になる。
「体裁（ていさい）」 他の人にどう見られるか、どう思われるかを気にして、自分をよく見せようとすること。体裁は自分だけじゃなく自分の周りの環境から作られることが多い。友達や家族、学校のルールや社会の期待、そういったものが体裁を作り上げていく。
自分が無意識のうちに作り上げた体裁が、どんどん自分を縛り付けていく。そしてその体裁を維持するために、無理を重ねていく。いつの間にかその体裁のために生きるようになってしまう。体裁に打ち勝つのはとても難しい。
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My two daughters are in junior high school; my third daughter is in the upper grades of primary school. At this age, they are inevitably concerned about others.
“Appearances (teisai)” refer to the act of worrying about how others see you and trying to present yourself in a favorable light. This isn’t just something you create on your own; it’s often shaped by your surrounding environment. Friends, family, school rules, and societal expectations all contribute to the creation of these appearances.
The appearances you unconsciously build up can gradually start to confine you. To maintain these appearances, you might begin to overextend yourself, making more and more sacrifices. Eventually, you find yourself living solely for the sake of these appearances.
It is very difficult to overcome”Appearances (teisai)”
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